The Conscience and Comfort Flowchart

North, this is a guide for you to navigate Subliminal Affective Control and self-accommodation.

A Note from Your Father:

I never figured out this Subliminal Affective Control from Jenni until long after we were divorced. I am so driven by explicit, on-the-surface language, I was unprepared for this non-verbal influence; I didn't even know it was a thing. You don't have to be as slow a learner as me.

Also, don't see this as choosing me over James/Jenni. For you to really confront and be successful in this challenge, you are going to need to choose your Heavenly Father and dig deep in yourself for this fight for the wholesome, healthy, lawful things He wants in His servants.

You have been living in an unconsciousness feedback loop. James and Jenni are highly uncomfortable around healthy, vibrant, wholesome and hetero.


The feedback loop has been that they exhibit visible signs of discomfort in their facial expressions, body language and nonverbal sound cues. You as a sensitive person that responds to another's discomfort adjusts yourself till their signs of discomfort go away. Unconscious of this process, you adjusted yourself to a point of appearing less healthy to accommodate their visible discomfort.


If the above is even somewhat correct, your wellbeing is at risk and is suffering in service to making their unhealthy sensibilties feel normalized. A plan to undo this in a gentlemanly and considerate manner is what is presented below.

START: Your Current Living Environment
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AWARENESS: Recognize the feedback loop: nonverbal signals of discomfort from others (Subliminal Affective Control) lead to your subconscious self-alteration to appear less visibly healthy/vibrant.
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Is your resulting self-alteration to appear "unhealthy" and "less vibrant" acceptable?
YES →
NO (Unacceptable) ↓
END: Status Quo (Ongoing Self-Accommodation)
COMMITMENT: Decide with absolute certainty to STOP ACCOMMODATING. Your only acceptable response is to defiantly pursue visible health and wholeness.
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STRATEGY CHOICE: Select Your Primary Exit Strategy.
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1. Pragmatic / Exit Strategy

PLAN TO MOVE OUT: Set a clear timeline and actionable steps to physically remove yourself from the constant subliminal signaling environment.
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END: Physical and Environmental Resolution.

2. Deep Spiritual Battle / Opportunity

SPIRITUAL DEFENSE: View the situation as a daily spiritual battle. You are on higher, wholesome ground; the only shame is failure to defend it.
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ACTION: Daily prayer and asking for the Holy Spirit's help. Defiantly be a visibly healthy, strong, and wholesome Christian man (future husband/father).
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See this challenge as a true gift from God. A passive, helpless person would just see this as a grand misfortune, as being wronged by fate. By accepting such a deep psychological and spiritual battle as something you are up to doing, you have been the opposite of passive and crushed by "fate." Most adults don't ever master the defeat of psychological (or demonic) manipulation; they just accept it or get divorced or some other defeat. You will at 17 have accepted a deep spiritual battle, and that is a warrior status heaven and your Heavenly Father will be pleased with.
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END: Spiritual Resolution (Not accommodating the darkness helps spread light).